Mentall Wellness

Self-Motivation

I have friends who, especially during this time, are feeling unmotivated and depressed. One friend in particular lives in close quarters with her grandparents and therefore has to be extra cautious with COVID-19. Unfortunately, she often expresses how her home has a “certain vibe” that gets her down. She feels she’s always having to defend herself and be her own support system since she’s not in the most nurturing environment. So undoubtedly, being stuck in her house all day, every day is not the most ideal situation. Yet, despite frequently expressing her feelings of depression and a lack of inspiration, I am in awe at her persistence to motivate herself. She continually finds ways she wants to improve and she sets goals to work towards. Whenever we talk, she often mentions new realizations she’s come to, plans to better herself, or the progress she’s made in particular areas. She’s been using quarantine as a time to reflect and address interpersonal and intrapersonal turmoil and she has managed to have some personal breakthroughs by pushing herself to achieve the goals she’s set for herself.

I know it sounds cliché, but writing down goals and putting them in a place where you always see them can help with motivation, seriously. Regardless if it’s to learn a new song on your ukulele in a month, or to save enough money for a downpayment on a house in 5 years, reminding yourself of your goals will give you a reason to get out of bed in the morning. I reference my goals every day as I have them posted on my closet door, bathroom mirror, and I have a vision board on my bedside. Although COVID has certainly disrupted our normal day-to-day flow, it has provided us with the gift of time to align our priorities and try new things. Take a moment to brainstorm activities you’re curious about and that brings you joy. Write out a daily to-do list to chunk the steps you need to take to reach your goals. We’re not always going to wake up feeling motivated or energized, but self-growth takes time and discipline, and if you’re not willing to push yourself to achieve your goals, who will?